We all know or at least have heard about mid-life crisis.Right?Have you ? Ok,if you haven’t,it’s that point where apparently grown ups start doing things they failed to do while they were young.Dang!Now you know!
Anyway this post is about the quarter life crisis which happens to people in their twenties.I dont know which part of the twenties exactly but I guess its somewhere in that after-uni age bracket..like between 22-25 or i think coz lately i’ve had some symptoms of this particular syndrome and trust you me,it isn’t easy.Wait did i just reveal my age,i’ll edit it out later.(edited) Now what happens is,you are at a point where you are trying to figure out yourself, and unlike in your teens where you were struggling with such issues as self-esteem,here we are dealing with some major stuff and your parents are not there no more to bear half the struggle.Like for instance you dont understand why you all left school at the same time and now some people look like ten strides ahead, half the time you are broke as hell and like i mentioned,you are on your own.The biggest issue here is you are totally unstable emotionally,mentally everything. You feel you are young,then you feel you are grown up and responsible and then you feel you don’t know. Anyway,here is something that i found that almost summarizes that and is inspirational in some way. i.e coz i believe the ultimate inspiration is knowing you aren’t alone.Yeah, you are not alone !
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Being in your twenties…
It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start
realizing that there are many things about yourself that
you didn’t know and may not like.You start feeling
insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two,
but then get scared because you barely know where you
You start realizing that people are selfish and that,
maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close
to aren’t exactly the greatest people you have ever met,
and the people you have lost touch with are some of the
most important ones. What you don’t recognize is that
they are realizing that too, and aren’t really cold, catty,
mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job… and it is not even close to what
you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are
looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have
to start at the bottom and that scares you. Your opinions
have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and
find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly
you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life
and are constantly adding things to your list of what is
acceptable and what isn’t. One minute, you are insecure
and then the next, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You
feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is
the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear
life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and
further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where
you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you
loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and
wonder why you can’t meet anyone decent enough that
you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love
someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out
why you’re doing this because you know that you aren’t a
bad person. You want to settle down for good because
now all of a sudden that becomes top priority. Getting
wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.You
begin to think a companion for life is better than a
hundred in the shack and for once you would not mind
standing tall for that special someone which otherwise
you had never thought of until now.
You go through the same emotions and questions over
and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics
because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry
about loans, money, the future and making a life for
yourself… and while winning the race would be great,
right now you’d just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that every one reading this
relates to it.We are in our best of times and our worst of
times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing